So, this post goes more to the people in relationships. So if you don't want to read sappy or cheesy sounding stuff, press back on your phone. Or press the x in the corner, cause that will be most of this post.
For those that kept going or skipped over it(because lets face it, if you are like me, you are skimming this article), this post is more about Romantic love. Most of these same things will also apply to Agape love, but this is more for relationships and spouses.
So I have what i consider to be a really awesome girlfriend. I tend to get worried;however, because most of my actions i feel like can get real old and annoying. Obviously, I don't want that to happen. So I started asking myself what actions really show love. Sure the Bible has some examples (a lot really), but what does love look like this day in age apart from those.
So to start off i think we might outline a few things that Love isn't. Love isn't always agreeing with your partner. Love isn't listening until you get bored, and then finding something else. Love isn't getting mad at your partner when something didn't go the way you wanted. Love isn't getting mad when they don't immediately text you back. Love isn't being in the same room, but playing on your phones instead of interacting. Love isn't expecting your partner to be perfect. LOVE IS ALSO NOT THE EXPECTATION OF YOU HAVING TO BE PERFECT. Love is not the dreamy fantasies and daydreams you have when you are bored. Love also isn't putting pics of your relationship online and with cute litttle captions. Love is not dancing around whatever issues you and your partner have. Love isn't hiding things from your partner because you want them to stay happy.
Now that we have outlined some of the things that love isn't, lets switch to the opposite. Love is talking to someone after a long day. Love is at least pretending to be interested what whatever you partner is talking about. Love is putting your partner first. Love is being upfront and honest with you partner. Love is not holding back from your partner. Love is realizing that you need to occasionally do stuff without your partner, and that its actually healthy. Love is putting down the phone, turning off the T.V. and interacting with your partner, no matter if its talking or cuddling or what. Love is sometimes annoying your partner. Love is realizing that somedays you will be really irritated at your partner (regardless of how annoying they are.) And that its normal. Love also is being there when they need you most. It can be a simply phrase you say or an unexpected visit. There is no requirement of how big, little or how often you show love. Love is also trying, when you have no idea you will succeed.
One of the more important things is that love takes effort. Don't get confused here. Somedays you feel humpty dumpty and all romantic and it seems easy, but there will be days that showing love seems impossible. There will be days when you are irritated at that person for whatever reason, and kind of spiteful. These are the days that the effort means the most. These are the hardest days, but the most rewarding.
You see, I think for guys in my generation (sorry Ladies, I can only speak for guys here.) we get split into two groups when it comes to relationships. Sex and Romanticism. Keep in mind that these have their appropriate place in a relationship, and time periods where they are supposed to happen. The problem is that we are starting to get into the mindset we have to do some elaborate thing to get a girl to love us. That is not the case. Love is gradual and full of small things. To quote my father, who in his own right is fairly romantic, "cut the cute stuff and just ask her". So Guys and Ladies too, Keep It Small and Simple.
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